The professor is in. This is Charlie, earlier this week, on school picture day. One of his teachers made bowties as Christmas gifts for the boys in the class and I just couldn’t resist putting it on him. As I got him ready, he pointed to the dress shirt and tie repeatedly and said, “Daddy! Daddy!” His father is a college professor whose unofficial uniform is a button down shirt and slacks. I was impressed that Charlie had picked up on that detail, but even moreso by the fact that Charlie was so excited to be dressing like his dad.
I’ve heard about how little boys are usually more attached to their mommies. Charlie does turn to me more often for certain things like comfort when he’s hurt and food or drink. He gets plenty of love and affection from both of us. But when he wants someone to pal around with or snuggle up to on the couch to watch a game (yes, our kid watches sports and actually pays attention!), he looks for his daddy. Honestly, I love watching the two of them together. I’m not the best at “playing,” if that makes sense, and I often have to remind myself to stop trying to do a million things at once and just get down on the floor and stack some blocks. But my husband just has an instinct. He knows what toys Charlie will like, he can keep him occupied even in the crankiest of times, and they just have this “pal-around” relationship that is exclusive to father and son.
Perhaps I could be jealous, but really I find their interactions to be the sweetest and most earnest moments of each day. Even when they aren’t together and I’m dressing Charlie for a picture day, he’s thinking of his dad and how much he wants to be like him. If that can’t warm even the darkest of hearts, I don’t know what will.
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