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Max’s Birth Story

By Kate |

I love reading birth stories – love it. I find it fascinating that you could talk to 100 women and get 100 different stories about how their children entered the world. From my experience, I’ve had 3 babies and my 3 births have been completely different. It’s hard to figure out how to tell mine and Max’s story but I’m going to try. And sorry in advance that it’s so long!

Throughout this pregnancy I’ve talked about giving birth naturally without pain medicine. No matter how much my husband and I talked about it I had a lot of self doubt about my ability to actually do it. The only reason I even considered it was based on my experience with my daughter. She was born after a very quick labor, 3 hours after we arrived at the hospital and 40 minutes after I had an epidural. I assumed my birth experience with my third pregnancy would be similar in that it would go quickly. I was wrong.

For nearly a week prior to Max’s birth day yesterday I had contractions every day. Not regular, not particularly painful, but definite real contractions. So those contractions combined with my doctor’s appointment last week had me thinking a baby would be coming any day. (At 37.5 weeks I was 2.5 cm dilated, 70% effaced and 0 station and the doctor predicted a baby within days.) But every day came and went without a baby.

Active Labor. Finally.

Wednesday night the contractions became noticeably more painful and more frequent. I didn’t tell my mom or my husband because we’d gotten our hopes up every day, it seemed, so I didn’t want to get everyone excited for no reason. We all went to bed but I couldn’t sleep. I had contractions about every 15 to 20 minutes – frequent enough to keep me awake. Around 2 the contractions became closer together so I woke my mom to keep me company. Around 4 we decided to start getting ready because the contractions were getting more regular and growing in intensity. I started packing my kids’ lunches for the next day, finishing up packing my hospital bag and basically walking around the house getting things together. The activity kicked the contractions into high gear and I was contracting every 4 minutes.

My husband called a friend to come stay with the kids and we packed up the car to go to the hospital. I wasn’t convinced we should go yet, but my mom and husband were concerned that I would have a quick labor again and they didn’t want to deliver a baby at home. So off to the hospital we went.

Or Not.

We went to OB triage around 5 in the morning and I was only 4 centimeters dilated. And the contractions stopped. Like totally stopped. I cannot tell you how discouraged I was. I couldn’t believe that after a week of contractions and a night of labor I was only dilated 4. I was strapped in a bed being monitored. I was only contracting every 10 minutes or so. This was basically my worst nightmare.

After 45 minutes of being monitored, the nurse said I could walk around for an hour to see if I progressed. Of course, when I started walking the contractions picked up again and were about every 4 minutes and much stronger. After what felt like a rough hour, at about 7 am the nurse checked me again and I was still only 4 cm. Now I was really upset. Cue the tears, folks. I hadn’t even been officially admitted to the hospital yet. I wasn’t really progressing but I was suffering through contractions for what felt like no reason. After lots of tears and talking we decided to wait for my doctor to come by to talk about options. I didn’t want to go home. I was tired and I just wanted to have my baby. But I didn’t want to labor in pain for no reason. I was seriously considering asking for pitocin and an epidural because I knew it would mean a baby in a matter of hours.

Impatiently Waiting.

For about an hour waiting for the doctor I alternated between laying in bed feeling sorry for myself and walking around our room. I kind of hated walking, to be honest, because every time I moved or stood I had a contraction. And they freaking hurt. I wondered why am I walking around encouraging these horrendous contractions if they’re not doing anything? So I spent most of the time sitting still. I had maybe 6 or 7 contractions in the hour we waited for the doctor.

When the doctor arrived around 8:15. I gave him the quick version of what was going on, told him I wanted him to break my water or do something to move things along. He said, “Well, let’s check you and see what’s going on.” Much to my surprise, I was 8 centimeters dilated! Hearing this news made me a new woman. I was totally reinvigorated, motivated and excited that maybe I could deliver naturally after all. Oh, and I was finally officially admitted to the hospital!

My husband and mom and one Labor & Delivery nurse, in particular, were very sweet at this point telling me I was so close, doing great and that if I’d made it this far I was going to delivery naturally. I was feeling confident, too.

It’s Time!

And then the contractions really started. They were very strong, every couple minutes. I was doing a decent job of breathing through them and I kept looking over at the little bassinet and heating lamp knowing that I was close to meeting my baby. Around 9 am the contractions became ridiculously unbearable. I was not doing well managing the pain at all. I said, “I just need a break” but it was obvious I wasn’t going to get one. There was seriously not a second between contractions to catch my breath; they were continuous and it was awful. I cried. I said, “I can’t do it.” A lot. But at that point what choice did I have?

I started to feel like I might need to push so my mom went out to get a nurse. Everything at this point went really quickly. I rolled on to my side and then OH MY GOD I really had.to.push. Only problem was that the room was not set up for delivery – no doctor, no stirrups, nothing. Everyone started running around setting things up and the doctor came running in, but I was waiting for no one. I had to push. I am pretty sure I pushed a little on my own before anything was set up. Probably not the best idea, but I couldn’t help it.

Once the doctor was in place, with my husband holding one leg and my mom on my other side I got the official okay to push. I pushed once and heard everyone say, “The baby has hair!” It hurt SO BADLY but I knew I was close – I was really doing this. I was delivering my baby! I pushed again and out came the head and then the shoulders and the little body. And then I waited a moment and heard everyone exclaim “It’s a BOY!” I think my husband must have secretly wanted a boy because I could hear him crying softly. My mom was emotional and so excited. I think I was just in shock.

Little Max was delivered at 9:24 am. 7 pounds 1 ounce and 19 inches long. And, get this – he was born with a head and hand presentation: his hand was up by his head when he came out. There’s a risk it could have hurt his shoulder or caused nerve damage, but he is doing just great. I have to say I’m thankful I didn’t have the mirror I wanted because seeing that would have freaked me out!

So the labor was much longer than I anticipated and the stops and starts of contractions were annoying and frustrating, but none of it matters now. I delivered a healthy baby who is doing wonderfully. And I accomplished a natural delivery, much to my own surprise. Turns out I’m tougher than I thought I was.

Kate

Kate

Kate started The Shopping Mama™ in January 2009 when, after graduating law school, she traded in online legal research and writing for locating the best products for children. She shops three kids ages 6,4 and 1 from their home in Germany. Her military family is making the most of the overseas assignment by traveling Europe every chance they get.

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    I LOVE birth stories too! Wow, you did it natural, that is awesome! He is absolutely perfect! Congrats to you :)

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    Shannon

    You are amazing. So happy for you!

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    Ashley

    Awww, congratulations! I love reading birth stories too (I could do that for hours!!!), and I’m hoping for a non-medicated VBAC next time. You’re story has encouraged me! I know I can do it without an epidural!

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    Max’s birth story is amazing, slow start but fast delivery and natural to boot, GO MAMA!!! Congrats!

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    I am just like you – I love reading birth stories. I can only imagine how frustrated you were at times. How awesome is that, that you were able to deliver naturally, way to go! He’s so handsome and I’m glad he’s here safe and you are both doing well. Beautiful story Kate.

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    Congrats on your beautiful little boy!!! He is simply adorable. Also congrats on your natural delivery.

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    Ashleigh

    Kate, congratulations. Your story is a beautiful inspiration. I am due tomorrow with my first and am anxiously awaiting her arrival. Your story has given me the strength to trust myself in this process. I wish you and max the absolute best.

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    I’m SO happy for you. I was literally in tears ready this. You also have me so scared for my upcoming delivery lol!

    I delivered Johnny naturally but it was because he came fast. My total labor with him was 3 hours and the midwife convinced me if I had the epidural I’d be hours longer if no into the next day.

    As you know this baby will be a VBAC if all goes as planned. I really REALLY don’t want another c-section!

    Again CONGRATS! He is absolutely beautiful Mama!

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    Laine

    He’s beautiful and congratulations!! I am so happy you got your gentle, natural birth. I hope you’re leaving him whole. He’s perfect as he is.

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    Terri

    AweSome!! I LOVE baby birth stories!!!!!!!

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    Terri

    And your babe is absolutely beautiful~ :) Congrats Momma~

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    Deanna U

    Love this. There was no way I’d deliver naturally, kudos!

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    Jana Clark

    I too love reading birth stories. Thanks for sharing yours! The last picture of you is beautiful. One look at that picture tells everything you were feeling in the moments leading up to Max’s birth. Congratulations again to your entire family!

    And, Kate, after what you’ve been through in the last 2 years, I think you’re one of the strongest women I know. XOXO

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    Laura

    Nice work!!! This is a great story!

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    That is wonderful, congrats! I also discovered that “I was tougher than I thought I was” after two natural births. I screamed “I can’t do this!” a lot with my first. Second birth was different for me in the water though, I enjoyed it more, even though the end was just as painful. My first was also born with head and hand presentation! And the cord wrapped around her twice, I pushed for 2.5 hours. Anyway, sorry for the babbling – I’m happy you have your healthy little boy and the surprise natural birth you secretly wished for :)

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    Natural labor is a wonderful experience and I am so glad you got the chance to experience it. After naturally laboring to the pushing stage with my oldest I had to have an emergency c-section anyway because he was breach, but my other 3 were all natural labors and I wouldn’t change it for the world. Congrats on your little angel, he is beautiful!

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    ShannonShannon

    Oh, Kate! I’m crying reading this. You did great and baby Max amazing! XOXO to you all!

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    Tacy

    Amazing, Kate! I delivered naturally both times (1st because there was no time for epidural and 2nd because I thought since I did it the first time, I could again). Needless to say, I would opt for an epidural if I had a third! Congratulations to you and your beautiful family!

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    Congrats, Kate! You did an incredible job and Max is just precious!!

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    He’s absolutely precious, congratulations Mama! ;)

  22. 22.

    what a great story! congrats, he’s a sweetie

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    Awww…that is just WONDERFUL! Thank you for sharing your birth experience with us and so quickly! Now….go rest! haha! Congratulations!

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    Dee

    I LOVE reading birth stories too! How frustrating that they kept stopping…but your end result is amazing. Congrats again Kate! :)

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